the process

When a person makes a choice that is not in alignment with their goals they are encouraged to look at their progress not their failures. This makes it easier to make a better decision not harder. A person who displays addictive behavior is far to vested in what other people think of him the whole codependency comes into play. The person feels out of control because he is depending on other people’s feelings to tell him about his experience. He cares too much about what other people think. In making a decision to be sober it has to be for himself not society or anyone else. Once he has made the decision for himself it is easier to help him get in the habit of making that decision again. I make suggestions about diet and exercise to keep the body in balance during the transition we help the client implement a better group of habits which support the lifestyle change.
This process is a gentle reminder of the direction the client has decided to go. This is not a boys club or a group shouting affirmations half heartedly that by the mere repetition binds them loosely together. This amounts to howling at the moon because you are afraid of the dark. The whole reward / punishment approach – tokens, cakes and being shunned or worse, patronized for failure amounts to aversion therapy which does not work. The patient becomes dependent on the shock, (electric shock therapy) or the group, to tell him he’s done something wrong. Our prisons teach people to be better prisoners or criminals not how to be better citizens. Help a person consciously make decisions in alignment with their goals you have taught a man to fish.

The daily reading discussing understanding and applying the principals of SCIENCE OF MIND, are the cornerstones of this process. Then I help a person consciously align their thoughts, words and deeds with their goals.

I also want to stress the importance of working with family members and/or codependents for the successful transition to sober living.